It has been a while since I have written a musing as it has been busy with a new store, hunting to buy a commercial space, christmas lead up, a large deal with Woolworths (more on that soon), renovations at my home, football tournaments with my sons to name a few things over the last couple of months. One thing that has stuck with me over the last few months is the attitude of many people these days. I just think people need to put their big girl pants on and find joy in all things! Hence my musings below......
'Poor me'
I think I am an empathetic person, who offers support to many people in my life. In fact lately I have been supporting a number of friends through their divorce and employment issues (12 years of being a commercial lawyer has been helpful!)
I find it very rewarding but some people use the ‘poor me’ when they have so much. As I get older I am becoming less patient with people like that. I know it is all relative but really there are so many people who have enough: wealth, family, loving partners, passion projects and/or work and it still is not enough. While I know struggles are relative, it can be frustrating to see this lack of gratitude. I often want to tell people to embrace their challenges and recognize the good things they possess. I just want to pick these people up and give them a shake and tell them to put their big girl pants on and be grateful.
- Is it because they have forgotten how to deeply connect with people?
- Is it because they have not created enough peace in their life?
- Is it because they have not found purpose in their lives?
- Is it because they do not have enough pleasure in their life?
- Is it because they believe in a monochromatic way of living and have forgotten their unique selves?
- Is it because they have forgotten how to give and receive help?
- Are they just stuck and don’t know how to make changes in their life and blame others?
- Are they just scared of failing?
I think I am trying to say maybe those ‘poor me’ people need to stop, find their peace, their place of happiness, be grateful and put their big girl pants on.
This applies not only to individuals but also to those who commentate on our world. I am tired of the constant stream of bad news stories about Wellington City. We need to focus on success stories, and there are so many here!
There are people all over Wellington doing and trying new exciting ventures. In fact I was at an Angel HQ event last week and some of the ventures were fabulous. Our people are patriotic and I have seen this first hand while spending time in the center of the city (99 Featherston Street) at our Pop up Shop. The Wellingtonians who come into the Pop up want our businesses to succeed, they want to connect, they love our city.
Yes we have problems with lack of jobs, yes we need to assist our homeless people, yes we need our landlords to be realistic about rents, we need insurance companies to bring down premiums, we need rates reduced or at least the money being put towards boring keys problems like our infrastructure. We need to keep being the creative food capital of New Zealand and the sustainable capital of New Zealand. We need those with money, wisdom, connections, passion, creativity, thirst for adventure and to be not scared of failure to keep building up our City and people.
No more ‘poor me’ please!
We need to lift ourselves up, lift others up, and go out there to make the absolute most of our time on earth!
Go put those big girl pants on!
Love Anna x
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